24.2.12

And so it is time to say goodbye.

It's been a strange few days and although some aspects have been hectic, I have also made sure to have little on the agenda so that I can spend time with my family and help them where I can. This has also helped beat the jet lag. On Wednesday I went with my mum and dad to pick out flowers for the funeral. We needed a large arrangement from them and my uncle and auntie, a smaller one for the 8 grandkids and a little heart from his little great-grandson. We decided on white, blue, yellow and red with lots of greenery so that it would feel like a field in bloom during spring. There would also be lilies because I love the way they look, smell and how they open themselves completely. It's a sign of life.

I am sure I am not the only one who loves a good florist and although this was under sad circumstances, it was still nice to feel inspired again. It really doesn't take much for me to get inspired/being distracted/wanting to redecorate my apartment.


Signs of every kind.


Afterwards we went to a cafe which at 11am was packed with seniors and they actually start serving dinner from 1pm to cater for its aging clientele. I had a cinnamon scroll and a hot chocolate. Delicious.


On Thursday we had a lovely meeting with the priest (who also conducted my grandma's funeral) over 2 hours where we shared memories and went over how the funeral should be arranged. There were many stories I hadn't heard before and it was a great trip down memory lane. In his prayers the priest said that my grandpa will live on as long as someone is talking about him and I truly believe it. We will be celebrating a wonderful man and every tear shed is a sign of our sorrow. It is also important to remember that we all grieve differently and some may cry, others may smile with the memories and some may just go quiet. It is okay, there is no right way to grieve.

Here I am a pink little baby and he is a proud grandpa.


Here we are on his 65th birthday - I was 9 and had made a homemade birthday card of course.


Today it is time for the funeral. I am looking forward to it but I am also really scared because it is the final farewell. He was a very special man who taught me lots of things including fishing, dancing swing, how important it is to leave the sink clean after washing up and a good work ethic. He hid under the table with me when I was scared of Santa and he also told me my eyes would go square if I watched too much tv...=) There are so many memories and I am so grateful for every single one of them. We had 25 great years together.


I will leave you with his favourite poem that he recited very often.

"Every night has a morning,
Every day has a night.
Every smile has a tear,
Every hello a farewell.

Every sorrow has some joy,
Every yes has a no.
And best of all,
I have a friend like you"

Xxxx

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8 comments:

  1. Sounds like it will be a wonderful service. I'm usually quite good at funeral services but what breaks my heart is seeing other people cry and then i start crying.

    and you're right. You've had 25 beautiful years with your grandpa.

    Thinking of you Ingy!

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  2. Wishing you well today, it must be tough, just think of the wonderful memories you have x

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  3. As tough as today will be, its so important to be thankful of the time you had with him. 25 years means a lot of memories to keep inside your heart. Wishing you and your family strength today. XO

    PS Even though it is sad circumstances you are home, I am enjoying your updates. Its so sweet you are opening up your life to us!

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  4. Thinking of you, hun...and thank you for sharing everything you've been going through.

    Sounds like it will be a tough day but it will be good to be able to say goodbye properly too.

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  5. It was very beautiful and thank you for your thoughts. I agree, it is always hard to see our loved ones cry. Xx

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  6. Thank you Jimmi Lou, it went really well and it was a very beautiful ceremony. The music was lovely too. There were tears, smiles & lots of good hugs. Xx

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  7. Thanks lovely, it was a beautiful service and we shared many smiles and tears. I am glad you are enjoying the updates - I guess it's like therapy for me:) xx

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  8. Thanks Hun, we celebrated his life very well today and as hard as it was, turned out to be a great goodbye. Xx

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